The Gender Game

Finding out the sex of your baby is very exciting; especially for the pregnant mama experiencing the wild pregnancy dreams.    Early in my pregnancy I had a dream that I was driving my car to visit friends from high school.  For those in the Bangor area, you may chuckle to yourself knowing that I was driving to the Trolley Station for breakfast.   

In the dream I knew I was introducing my friends to our baby for the first time.  As I turned around to view my little bundle of joy, I first noticed that the “baby” was not in a car seat but a teenage girl lying across the back seat of the car.  

My immediate thought was, “dang kids grow fast” followed by me stating aloud, “Claudette, are you hungry”.   After waking from the dream I immediately thought that Jason and I really needed to hone in on a girl name for our baby.  

Claudette was not a name we discussed for a girl but I felt like Claudette Hammond really didn’t have that magical ring I was searching for.

I then wondered if my dream held any truth.  Was I really pregnant with a girl?

During my pregnancy I had so many people tell me that I was pregnant with a boy because I was “glowing”.  Really?  Do women who are pregnant with boys really glow? Do women who are pregnant with girls really look that terrible? 

Maybe I did look terrible and they were just being nice…

Either way I thought I would share my thoughts on waiting until delivery day to find out the sex of your baby.   

I really wanted the surprise in the delivery room. I had this vision in my head of how everything would go, excitement, surprise, joy.  I really just felt that finding out the sex would make the birth anticlimactic.  

I also thought I would need motivation to birth our baby and finding out the sex of the baby would be just the motivation I needed.   But you really don’t need motivation to birth your baby, who knew? 

At this point I now know that the birth of our baby would be exciting either way but for us it made the day perfect. 

I requested in our birth plan for Jason to announce the sex of our baby before anyone else.    When I think of the day Madeline was born I immediately hear Jason’s voice saying, “it’s a girl…right?” and all of the beautiful emotions tied to that moment.  

Two days prior to Madeline’s birth Jason and I went for a walk.  While strolling around the neighborhood we decided that we were having a brown haired, brown eyed, little boy.  We could not have been more wrong which lead to so much more surprise and excitement in the delivery room.

Now moms who find out the sex of their baby prior to birth tell me that the day is just as exciting and memorable.  

So in the end it is your choice.  Don’t succumb to the pressure from family or friends to find out the sex.  It will all happen in due time. 

To all of the parents out there who want to wait until D-day for the surprise, go for it.   It is so worth the wait in the end!